Dear Wife, are you struggling to forgive or pray for the Other Woman/ Women?
May this testimony encourage you that the Lord can transform hearts of people, that He is at work, and that when you pray for the Other Person for conviction of sin, salvation, hunger and thirst for righteousness, godly transformation, that she be delivered from all evil, that she come to know the Lord intimately, love the Lord with all her heart soul mind strength, that the Lord surround her with godly people who will mentor her and pray her to Gods kingdom, that the Lord will give her her own life partner who will love her faithfully (whether that’s a single godly man or Jesus Himself),
you are actually praying a prayer that is in line with your prayer for restoration of you and your marriage.
I When you forgive, you are actually stepping towards your own healing, Gods forgiveness of you, and deliverance from torment.
This is the story of former Miss Philippines, Anne Blas, who was an Other Woman in the past but the Lord changed her; she’s now serving the Lord by discipling other Other Women to turn away from their immoral relationships and towards the Lord.
If you have been blessed by Mike Yap who leads the Saturday sessions of Movement for Men (can’t rememebr exact ministry name that disciples men), she is his mother.
Anne Blas: From An Other Woman To Godly Counselor
Redemption in The Flesh: Anne Blas, From An “Other Woman” to Godly Counselor
Reasons You Must Forgive and Pray for the Other Woman:
- Deliverance from torment (physical emotional mental financial spiritual) MAtt 18:34-35
- You will be forgiven for your own sins as well. (Forgive us in the same way we forgive those who sin against us).
- You are praying God’s will that everyone come to repentance (2 Peter 3:9b)
- Your prayer is aligned with the Restoration of Your Marriage:
a) no one putting asunder the marriage God put together.
b) God demolishing immoral soul tie/ bondage/ foothold/ stronghold (demonic/ grounded on sin) of your husband with Other Woman by bringing her into His kingdom.
5. Withholding Forgiveness will constitute disobedience on your part and will hinder your prayers. (Prov 28:9)
Essentially, what you would pray for the people you love most, pray this for the people who hurt you most. May they fall in love with Jesus with all their heart soul mind and strength, surrender their lives to Him and live for His glory.
Dear Lord, please help every Wife here to forgive and pray for the Other Woman (as well as her husband). Remind her that the battle is not against human beings (the enemy is not her husband nor the Other Woman/ Women but “against the rulers, against the authorities, against the powers of this dark world and against the spiritual forces of evil in the heavenly realms.”
(Eph 6:12 NIV)
May You remove every sin and hindrance that keeps Your beloved Bride of Christ from seeing Your perspective and keeps her from obeying You. May she fix her eyes on You alone as she waits for the fulfilment of the promises in Your Word. May You turn her sorrow and pain from the world, into unshakeable joy and peace in You. May You remind her of Who You are, that You can change hearts and situations. Noting is too difficult for You and no one is beyond Your reach. May You enable her to feel Your presence in a very real way today and every day in Jesus’s name and for His glory amen
“For though we live in the world, we do not wage war as the world does. The weapons we fight with are not the weapons of the world. On the contrary, they have divine power to demolish strongholds. We demolish arguments and every pretension that sets itself up against the knowledge of God, and we take captive every thought to make it obedient to Christ.” 2 Cor 10:3-5 NIV
this is so hard.. in my case there are 2 children involved already in the adulterous relationship .. the mistress knows i still fight for my marriage but she kept saying she loves my husband and that its my husband who wanted to have more kids to her.. how can u forgive ? knowing she is doing it intentionally… its hard to forgive myself my husband and the mistress because the relationship still ongoing… i know i have also flaws.. i also stalk her in fb and each time i feel insecure .. she have two kids from past bfs and now have two kids from my husband…4 kids and my husband is the one who is fathering the other kids even not his.. i dont want the mistress to be part of my life forever but its hard , knowing that her kids is half siblings of my two kids now 🙁 knowing there will always be a shared attention and time from my husband… shared resources.. i still love my husband but im struggling and hurting. i know i ak wrong.. what im doing is wrong.. but it is just hard and confusing.. i dont know the purpose of the innocent children being born out of “forbidden relationship” .. i dont know.. why God allowed it.. if it is His way in telling me that my husband is wrong for me or I am wrong for him
That is a tough situation you are in. Are you located in the Philippines? Would you be interested to have a one on one online counseling session?
Are you familiar with Zoom meetings on your gadget? Meanwhile praying Psalm 121 for you in Jesus’s name amen
Hello sis Jean! This is Elaine, I am a servant in the Praying Wife Forum. I read your comment here and although I do not know the exact circumstances, I understand how challenging it is to be in the season you are in now in your marriage.
My husband also had an affair and had a child with the other woman. We had no children and so everyone thought separation was the obvious outcome. The other woman in my husband’s affair was confident, and she believed that they were in love and that I was forcing myself on my husband. God blessed her with a child and I was not, even I doubted if staying married was the will of God at the time.
That season was extra hard, my husband would spend every day with her and their baby for many months. Although the pain was excruciating, it was the time when I experienced God’s sovereign grace and providence. The psalms became my food, I ate it day and night. Genesis 50:20 and Romans 8:18&28, were the anchors of the hope I have in Christ. James 1:2, I thought was impossible, until God made me experience it during that season.
If you want that blessing of an intimate relationship with the Lord, forgiveness is a command, there is no compromise in that. The other woman in my marriage until now has no repentance, she kept her pride, and even though my marriage is restored, by God’s grace and mercy, I still experience the trauma she caused. God supplied me with the faith to trust Him in His ways, ways that are always good and perfect, and that same grace is also available to you.
A few practical reminders that helped me forgive her daily were:
-I am a sinner, forgiven by grace alone.
-Because Jesus died for me while I am still a sinner, I can forgive her even if she still sins against me.
-Every offense done to me has already been paid on the cross, sobra pa.
-It is only by God’s sovereign grace that I am in the position to be blameless before God as the wife and not the mistress.
-In the eternal perspective, she is to be pitied more than despised and so I should pray for her.
-God is for me.
I will be praying for you and your marriage sis Jean. God, in His perfect time, touched the heart of my husband to repent. I encourage you to anchor your hope in Him who is good and in control always. God bless you sis Jean!
-Elaine
Thank you so much Sis Elaine for this insightful godly compassionate counsel you have shared. I praise God for your heart to give this encouragement!
Thank you sis Elaine..thank you for your testimony.. and for your encouragement.. I will try sis to do
Thank you. This applies to me also and truly God is ever living in His words through people like you.
Hello mam ellaine i need some encouragement and wisdom I am also battling with some infidelity issues with my partner. Though we already patched things up but i think they’re still communicating with the mistress. The mistress by the way came to our unit to beg for my partners to talk to
Her. But my partner didnt go out. I thought it was over between them until last night I saw the name
Of the misstress to his messenger (but wasnt able to read) tell me what to do? Huhuhu i was broken hearted once again.by the way we are not yet married but we have our daughter with us
Hello sis Dimples! This is Elaine, thank you for messaging PWF. I know how challenging your situation is, especially having a daughter who needs caring and nurturing.
Sis, I will be able to give you biblical advise. God designed marriage and He gave commands to both the husband and the wife, as in Ephesians 5: 21-33 and Mark 10:9.
May I ask what is stopping you both from getting married? I am asking because here in PWF, we believe in the marriage covenant. And having an intimate relationship with the Lord is a key foundation of our testimonies. I would advise sis for you to consider receiving that blessing from the Lord by committing to the marriage covenant that He designed. I pray that you and your partner would seek His endless grace through marriage ❤️
Let me give you practical advise about your concerns based on my experience in dealing with infidelity. Infidelity is very hard to overcome, it causes trauma and trust issues. Our tendency is to what to control things, and in reality we cannot control others but only our own responses.
If your partner is still communicating with the other woman, you may have a conversation with him and make an appeal for him to stop doing that. It has to be said in a respectful manner, being emotional often hinders being heard and understood. Lower your expectation as he may not agree with your appeal. We cannot force people, even if there is change, it will be temporary.
Sis, may I share with you how I overcame the betrayal? It was when I surrendered my life to the Lord, I was able to experience peace and joy in the midst of tribulations, I pray that you will also have that.
For now, your joy may be dependent on your partner, but unlike God, your partner will fall short and will make mistakes. My husband Tye had no reason to go back to me and stay faithful after an adulterous relationship and having a child outside marriage. It was his relationship with God that convicted him to honor his marriage covenant. It was a long journey but it was full of grace from the Lord.
I pray sis that you and your partner will have that relationship with God. It will both give you the joy that no worldly relationship can provide, and it will both give you the right convictions when it comes to your relationship.
If you are interested to know more, you may message me at messenger. Tye-Elaine Ongpauco.
God bless you sis❤️
I need God’s help to forgive husband’s mistress, Courtney Norgart. She knew my husband was married when she met him and she heavily pursued him and came inside my family home to have sex with him while my two very young children were asleep and I was out of town for my mother’s double mastectomy operation. She views herself as a victim and neglected her children to pursue her affair with my husband and see another man at the same time. She needs God in her life desperately.