EA: Takeaway Learnings:
- that we are all captives by the unseen enemy, there’s a demon behind every behaviour of ourselves, our husbands, OWs and other preyers. We have to look beyond the reasons of this hurtful things so we will not struggle with the sin of unforgiveness.
- it is not beneficial to provoke and confront, you will lose fights with your husband, fight the urge to interrogate. Zip it.
-Be consistent with your journey of becoming a Godly wife.
- look at the OW as someone Jesus Christ also died on the cross for
-No one is righteous
- For separated women, be careful as satan will put traps in your life taking advantage of your vulnerability.
-Always choose obedience
- JWC Counselling and Deliverance Ministry can help you if you are struggling with trauma.
Thank you dear sisters for all the beautiful teachings and sharings earlier. As someone who just got separated nine days ago, God unfolded the things I did wrong and what I have to do right next.. This has helped me a lot; would love to learn more.
EU: Preyers of our marriages, whether it’s an OW, BI Friends, Workaholic Boss, or simply our husband’s extra curricular activities —these are all but the enemy’s scheme (Ep. 6:10-11) to stumble us and cloud our faith with a Jezebel Spirit.
While with the Fruit of the Spirit, we have to remember that the preyers themselves are captives in bondage to sin and has to be saved by Christ Himself (2 Tim. 2:26).
They are willing victims used by the enemy to offend us & lure us “wives”, to loosen up that Belt of Truth and to finally drop the breastplate of Righteousness so the enemy can swiftly attack as we give in to our selfish motives, leaving behind the Sword of the Spirit (Ep. 6:14-17).
So we must always be reminded that the battle is not ours but God’s (Prov. 26:17) (Ep. 6:12).
Obey! Obey! Obey! To our one True God. The lover of our soul. Our bridegroom. Jesus Christ.
JE: Ephesians 6:12 For our struggle is not against flesh and blood, but against the rulers, against the powers, against the world forces of this darkness, against the spiritual forces of wickedness in the heavenly places.
- husband is not the enemy, even the other woman. Honestly, I find it weird but when I learned about the ow I didn’t hate her, I didn’t say too that I like her. No condemnation but I prayed for her that the Lord will bless her life and that the Lord will use her for the greater glory of His name. But of course, I aggresively prayed to God that whatever relationship they have with my husband— let them find no enjoyment with their ungodly relationship. That the Lord will destroy it because that is against His will and that You Lord abhor sin. Nabuhayan ako ng loob when Tye mentioned to aggresively prayed for ow. Constantly praying that my husband will be free from that bondage. When I prayed to God He always gave me very clear answers such as 2 Kings 20:3 “Remember now, O Lord, I beseech You, how I have walked before You in truth and with a whole heart and have done what is good in Your sight.” And Hezekiah wept bitterly.
2 Kings 20:5 “Return and say to Hezekiah the leader of My people, ‘Thus says the Lord, the God of your father David, “I have heard your prayer, I have seen your tears; behold, I will heal you. On the third day you shall go up to the house of the Lord.
Mark 11:24 Therefore I say to you, all things for which you pray and ask, believe that you have received them, and they will be granted you.
Jeremiah 32:17 Ah, Lord God! It is you who have made the heavens and the earth by your great power and by your outstretched arm! Nothing is too hard for you.
Job 42:2 I know that you can do all things, and that no purpose of yours can be thwarted.
- God is so so faithful with me, and my confidence is His faithfulness. So I stand the gap for victory is ours. And I am God’s warrior.
C2: My old self said I will not take my husband back after what he did, after all the hurtful words he told me. Even his mistress—- she is already dead in my dreams before makakita pa lang ako ng maputi, mahaba ang buhok parang gusto ko ng sambunutan at iwasiwas left and right 😂😂😂. But God’s love is overflowing. He never let me go on that path but he led me to godly people who will guide me to be an obedient child of God.
When I started attending Spiritual warfare we were taught that we are not against human enemies but against evil spirits, we were advised to forgive those who have hurt us kahit sino, you need to extend your forgiveness saka we learned that unforgiveness leads you to torment. Masakit kaya yun—- brokenhearted na matotorment pa 😭😭😭. By God’s grace, day by day I’m asking God to change my heart , mold me to be the person, sister, mother, wife he wants me to be. It was a long process until I was able to ask forgiveness then forgave them as well. Hindi na kailangang intayin na humingi sila ng tawad sa iyo. Very pleasing kay God if we humble ourselves and obey him plus points ka kay Lord 😊. Unti unti I was able to pray for them kasi ang nakikita ko na ngayon is kawawa naman sila, dun sa list kanina ng mga evil spirits na nakakarga sa kanila imagine kung san sila papunta . My husband is my other half, I always think of him how good he was as a father, a best friend and a good husband to me. He himself is just a victim, instead of being mad at him, I will never cease to pray for him until he himself will have a personal relationship with God and also his mistress. This is a win-win for all of us, we will be saving not just our soul but our husbands and their mistresses. The enemy has no power over us because when we accepted Jesus Christ as our Lord and Savior, he is already been disarmed and defeated. Let’s keep on praying for our husbands, we will all be victorious in the end. And always think whenever we align ourselves with God, we are giving him Honor and Glory. I am still a work in progress kaya I keep asking God to erase everything all the past hurts , make me ready when my husband decided to come home to us.
AO: My takeaway. Nagkasala satin si husband sa tingin natin pero ako din ay nagkakasala s Lord pag hindi ako nagpatawad.madalas nakikita ko ang mali nya pero ang mali ko na ipamukha sa kanya ang kanyang kamalian ay hindi ko alam na ako din ay nagkakasala. At sa mga pang huhusga na ginagawa ko sa asawa ko at pag na-nag sa kanya ay parang booster na mas ginigising ko sila sa kanilang maling gawa. Kung magtiwala ako, si Lord at hindi sa aking mga hinala tunay n makakaramdam ako ng kapanatagan. Masakit pero alam ko na sa huli, kami ang magwawagi. Di ba sabi nga if God is with us who can be against us romans 8:31. Sakit now ligaya later. May mga bagay na akala ko hindi umaayon sakin ang Lord pero nakikita ko now na napakadami pala niyang pabor na ginagawa sakin. Naka-focus kasi ako sa sakit na nararamdaman ko dati. Hindi ko nakikita na nasasaktan din sila sa mga nangyayari. Sabi ko hindi ko deserve ang sakit dahil ginawa ko ang lahat pero masyado pala akong naka focus sa sarili ko. Pero kung tutuusin mas madami papala ang wives na mas masakit kaysa sa akin ang nararamdaman. Kasama ko asawa ko, may intimacy kami; he always try to make me smile and happy pati sa mga anak namin. Pero lagi ako nakatingin sa mali nya. At yun ang pan lilinlang sakin ni Satan. Talagang magnanakaw si Satan ng joy kaya hindi na ako papayag na ulitin niya sa akin yun by God’s grace po ang Lord ang lalaban para sakin sa mga kasinungalingan ni Satan. Dahil kasama ko si God, alam ko ang sakit ay panandalian lang. Thank you po sa PWF, madami akong learnings. Hindi man po ako lagi nag se-share pero deep in my heart I’m so blessed po.
IA: Ephesians 6:12
For our struggle is not against flesh and blood, but against the rulers, against the authorities, against the powers of this dark world and against the spiritual forces of evil in the heavenly realms.
Who is the preyer? Is it our husband? Or the AW?
At first I consider it to be the AW, for after all she prey on my husband’s weakness. I was told by my sister in law who is a christian that the enemy is not our husband or the AW but Satan. When you are an unbeliever, it is very difficult to grasp. When I accepted Jesus as my Lord & Saviour, He changed my heart. By God’s grace I was able to forgive my husband and the AW. I came to understand that they are also victims of Satan’s schemes. Satan came only to steal, kill and destroy and he will usually start chaos in our marriage to be able to destroy the whole family.
How do we fight satans schemes? We bend our knees in prayer. Pray unceasingly. Pray aggressively. Fix your eyes on Jesus and everything will follow. Pray for our husband’s salvation as well as the salvation of the AW. If your husband is with you enjoy your time with your husband, treat him like a king, do not be historical do not nag, do not interrogate …. you are not an investigator, be submissive, never assume or overthink …. it will not be beneficial and lastly zip lips.
At times we may feel rejected or unappreciated, remember our husbands are also struggling. It is never easy pero unli naman magsumbong kay Lord. Iiyak at iluhod natin yan, mga Sis. Sometimes we may think that nothing is happening …. we may not see it but God is working. Surrender everything and trust God, we have the most powerful defender.
EE: 2 Tim 2:26. I was also held captive by the enemy. I was focused on the actions of my husband. I allowed the thief (John 10:10) to steal the joy and destroy my marriage. I even was so focused on my hubby (putting him like idolatry) that his attention was my source of satisfaction and joy. I should die to my old self and pursue God. But it’s not too late. God knows the timing.
God is faithful, even if I am alone in this Covid season, I feel the peace and joy that God would not leave me. And in my worst season I was found by God and meeting God in a different way.
Eventually, seek my identity in God. Before, low self confidence, self esteem. Thinking that all that I have are from my husband. Without experiencing these circumstances I thought my life is my family who needs me. I thought I could not live without them but God teaches me Matthew 6:33 and Psalm 37:4.
I am in prayer and fasting to overcome my doubt of whether God
will really restore my marriage. Doubting the word of God is unbelief, it’s a disobedience, not trusting God and it’s a SIN.
Now, I’m just praying – aggressively and wait on God to fulfill His word. Our God doesn’t lie like man. His plans and will are higher than ours. I’m guarding my heart and preparing for God’s will. He is still at work.
SI: Today is my husband’s birthday. I am saddened that we could not celebrate as a family and I know he is celebrating with his OW. What a timely topic to have today, for me! Reminder for me to pray for my husband that his eyes will be opened and assess his life where he is now and where he wants to take his life from hereon. Reminded again that God is in control. Sin of immortality/adultery will be dealt with and my sin of unforgiveness will be dealt with as well. Also for the godly wisdom of praying for the salvation of the OW. Trust God’s word, all His will will come to pass.
Sis A: Take away — it is important to be consistent sa positive interaction with husband . Di puede one week ok tayo being the good Christian wife then the next week, back to nagging, and all the negative reactions. This is very difficult and this has always been my weakness — much prayers and grace from God is needed in order to persevere.