From Judgmental to Submissive – Rose

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“The Praying Wife Forum is a very good reminder for me on how to have the proper attitude towards my husband.

There were biblical seminars I really wanted to attend over the weekend. My husband was surprised to learn that my desired plan would take three days which meant I wouldn’t be around if he needed my assistance in a business transaction he is dealing with at the moment.

I prayed to God because I didn’t want to miss out on my seminars; they had been set a month prior and had been paid for.

But I got reminded that my husband is my priority and authority on earth. So I told God, ‘Okay lang po kung sabihin niyang bumalik ako ng Saturday kahit pa masayang lahat ng binayad ko at paghahanda ko pero ayaw ko sa akin manggaling, I refused to volunteer or let him know it is okay (It’s ok if he asks me to come back on Saturday even if my payment and preparation get wasted but I don’t want to be the one to volunteer to forego my events).’

I was justifying that anyway if my husband asked, I would submit to him.

After reading our Praying Wife Forum group chats, slowly/ progressively I kept getting convicted. I discerned that there was pride in my heart that said, ‘if he needs me let him say so; kung makunsensiya siya malamang hindi siya magsasabi (if he gets convicted, most probably he won’t say anything) pero kung mangibabaw selfishness niya, handa ako mag submit (but if his selfishness prevails, I’m ready to submit). Why make it easy for him?’

Ang sama ng laman ng puso ko at mapanghusga ako sa asawa ko (My heart’s meditation was evil and judgmental towards my husband)

Knowing God, this attitude is not pleasing to Him.

I thank God for His gentle conviction that changed my heart’s attitude, taking away pride and replacing it with a submissive heart, I texted this message to my husband…

Mahal (Love), you are my first priority after God. If you do not want me to stay in Batangas after my seminar in anticipation of the business transaction we talked about, just say so and I will gladly return home on Friday.

Do not worry and do not doubt that I will want to be here for you and be with you. I support what you do and even pray for its success.

Sabihin mo lang sa akin kung ano gusto mong gawin ko (Please tell me which you would prefer that I did), Okay?’

I hope my words to him delivered my heart’s intentions of a supportive wife and not be taken in any other way.

Growing with God and sharing the delight of serving Him with you, my sisters in Christ. Thanks for your mentoring and encouragement.”

⁃ Rose

Dear Sis,

Praising the Lord for your humble heart willing to be convicted by His Word and turn 180 degrees away from pride towards submission to Christ through your earthly authority, your husband. Praise God that you were not merely a hearer of the Word but a doer of the Word, loving in action by initiating to volunteer to prioritise your husband if he needed you even if this was not what your flesh wanted. May your consistent Christlikeness draw your husband closer to Christ in Jesus’s name amen.

“So we make it our goal to please him, whether we are at home in the body or away from it. For we must all appear before the judgment seat of Christ, so that each of us may receive what is due us for the things done while in the body, whether good or bad.”
‭‭2 Corinthians‬ ‭5:9-10‬ ‭NIV‬‬

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