“Why Do You Call The ‘Homewrecker’ With Sugarcoated Names When The Bible Calls Her ‘Adulteress’”

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Q: “My husband calls his adulterous relationship “affair” his mistress “other woman,” his lust “flirting.” And you are calling adulterous woman mistress, Other Woman, OW, or Ate Girl. If you are using God’s word and teaching people, call sin by its name. How can you teach spiritual warfare when you call an adulterous woman OW OR ATE GIRL? for me that’s hypocrisy and double standard.”

Dear beloved sis, certain words or memories may be triggers for us towards post traumatic stress disorder.
It is possible we respond to the moment’s circumstances but are reacting to our strongest traumatic experiences

The Lord is our all powerful Healer so that nothing and no one will have the power to send us into a fetal position.

The Lord is healing you inside and out in body mind and spirit and loves you so preciously. He is your Defender Vindicator Shield Fortress and He is our Righteous Judge. He will not say that what is sin is righteous. You can count on that.

As we journey with Him, fix our eyes on Him and cast ALL our burdens to Him. He alone is able to carry all our burdens. We should not be carrying them. It requires on our part 100% surrender.

We love you so much and long to help you.

Join me in declaring in Jesus’s most powerful name that the spirit of fear anxiety panic depression anger jealousy trauma rejection abandonment and ANY and ALL spirits not from God are cast out rebuked arrested rendered powerless and sent to the feet of Jesus and will not send similar or replacement spirits in all of our lives hearts minds spirit.
God is for us and in Him we are More than Conqueror over our trials in Jesus’s name amen.

Would you like to have a one on one deliverance session on the next available schedule? If you are willing, I will try to find out when.

Love you always in Jesus’s name amen!


Sis Ed: Calling the adulterous women as “OW” is response to God’s command.

I believe we should stand firm on that virtue that we promote peace than bitterness. That we are vessels of inspiration & encouragement that comes from our Father.

(Galatians 6:1)
(Luke 17:3)
(Luke 6:37)
(John 8:7, 11)
(Ephesians 4:32)

Likewise, we don’t call husband by his sins.. instead, we promote love and respect though they are in the season of being a prodigal.. I believe the OW’s deserve our prayers too as a form of Grace from God.


Sis B: Salamat Sis, sa mga verses na ‘to. Nag-research ako sa wikang Tagalog at ang sarap po pagnilay-nilayan. Lalo na yung mga salitang maging mabait, maawain, mahinahon, huwag humatol at mapagpa-tawad.

Galacia 6:1
Mga kapatid, kung may isa sa inyo na mahulog sa pagkakasala, kayong pinapatnubayan ng Espiritu ang magtuwid sa kanya. Subalit gawin ninyo iyon nang mahinahon, at mag-ingat kayo, baka kayo naman ang matukso.

Lucas 17:3
Kaya’t mag-ingat kayo!
“Kung magkasala sa iyo ang kapatid mo, pagsabihan mo; at kung siya’y magsisi, patawarin mo.

Lucas 6:37
“Huwag kayong humatol at hindi kayo hahatulan. Huwag kayong magparusa at hindi kayo parurusahan. Magpatawad kayo at kayo’y patatawarin.

Juan 8:7, 11
7 Patuloy sila sa pagtatanong kaya’t tumayo si Jesus at nagsalita, “Ang sinuman sa inyo na walang kasalanan ang siyang maunang bumato sa kanya.”
11 “Wala po, Ginoo,” sagot ng babae.
Sinabi ni Jesus, “Hindi rin kita hahatulan. Umuwi ka na, at mula ngayon ay huwag ka nang gumawa ng kasalanan.”

Efeso 4:32
Sa halip, maging mabait kayo at maawain; magpatawad kayo sa isa’t isa tulad ng pagpapatawad sa inyo ng Diyos dahil kay Cristo.


Sis A: Because the wife is secure being the Bride of Christ and does not want to walk into Satan’s scheme/ trap to outwit her with unforgiveness, as she continues to seek God’s word and will, by His grace she will flee again and again from the temptation to withhold forgiveness.

“Anyone you forgive, I also forgive. And what I have forgiven—if there was anything to forgive—I have forgiven in the sight of Christ for your sake, in order that Satan might not outwit us. For we are not unaware of his schemes.”
‭‭2 Corinthians‬ ‭2:10-11‬ ‭NIV

The torment belongs only to the one who does not forgive while the offender is fancy free; the offense will lose its power to twist the knife only after she chooses to forgives… again.. and again if need be.

She belong to God’s kingdom; she is not limited by the natural realm. God gives her the vision of people After Jesus has completed His work in them. The declarations of her mouth have the power to be self-fulfilling prophecies or a curse they will remain in.

The sooner and more consistently (not humanly possible but possible with God) she declares Christ’s love and power to transform the offender, the sooner Christ’s power is unleashed.

“The tongue can speak words that bring life or death. Those who love to talk must be ready to accept what it brings.” Proverbs‬ ‭18:21‬ ‭ERV

And most importantly, the first person who needs to be transformed is herself. If she wants God to hear her prayers, she will do well to flee from sins unforgiveness, condemnation, pride, self-righteousness, and accusation.

“If I had cherished sin in my heart, the Lord would not have listened;”
‭‭Psalms‬ ‭66:18‬ ‭NIV‬‬

(Rev 12:10 says it is Satan who is “accuser of the brethren” while John 3:17 says Jesus did not come to condemn but save). Jesus’s sheep will listen to His voice and follow Him (John 10:27).

One of the hardest things to control is oneself. Overcoming the spectrum of natural (toxic) negative emotions by the Spirit of God by walking closely with God is a step of victory and validation that God is in the business of life and heart transformation.

““I am the vine; you are the branches. If you remain in me and I in you, you will bear much fruit; apart from me you can do nothing.” John‬ ‭15:5‬ ‭NIV‬‬

The Danger of Being the “Non-Prodigal”

God Himself will deal with the sexually immoral.

“Marriage should be honored by all, and the marriage bed kept pure, for God will judge the adulterer and all the sexually immoral.”
‭‭Hebrews‬ ‭13:4‬ ‭NIV‬‬

Surrendering 100% to God and aligning with His Word will put the ball in His court. Wait on the Lord.

“Do everything without grumbling or arguing, so that you may become blameless and pure, “children of God without fault in a warped and crooked generation.” Then you will shine among them like stars in the sky” Philippians‬ ‭2:14-15‬ ‭NIV‬‬


Sis C: I agree that adulteress, prostitutes are biblical; however, I will not use those words to describe the other person involved in marital conflicts . Just like I will not address or call my husband philanderer. Why? Am a follower of Christ, I believe in forgiveness. I believe in compassion, I believe in (Jesus’s) love. OW is kinder and they remain nameless.

What’s in a label? Yes, A sin is a sin, and God knows every sin everyone of us committed regardless of name. It is looking beyond the label. It is looking at ourselves first before others, how are we in Christ’s eyes. Revenge is never considered if I am a follower of Christ

Labelling one as adulteress n prostitute out of anger speaks of unforgiveness in my being. It runs contrary to my being a follower of Christ.

It is also my barometer on how far I have forgiven if I can say Ate Gurl or OW or name if the person without anger.

Heart check must be done.


Sis E: It is another way of name calling like calling them p— or m—— or whatever hateful words we could think of. It hurts, yes, just like being betrayed by a sibling or a best friend and most of the time, just to validate our hatred. Isn’t it also one way of revenge? My brother, not a christian would always reprimand us girls (siblings) and that includes my mom when we would be calling names directed to whoever husband or boyfriend who would hurt us. We would not run out of names, believe me. And it really felt good. Until I realize that it is not what God teaches me to be, “But let your adorning be the hidden person of the heart with the imperishable beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which in God’s sight is very precious.” 1Peter3:4 that should be my attitude to a friend or foe. Thank you my Lord Almighty.


Sis M: We need to see our own sinfulness and fully understand what Jesus did on the cross for us so that we can also forgive the other woman. Let us not be judgemental because in Gods eyes, we are all sinners. No one is better than the other.


Sis C2: Before hindi ko makayang banggitin name ni “Ate Gurl”, yung word na Ate Gurl itself sumasakit na ang batok ko at nagsisikip ang dibdib ko, when I started joining PWF and saw yung post ni Sis @CECILLE na if we can’t pray for them she is willing to pray for her, so i gave her the complete name. Then I started attending PWF bible study sa CCF cafeteria and also joined deliverance ministry, we started with 70×7 of Bruce Wilkinson, unti unti ni reveal ni God sa akin na useless yung walk ko if I won’t be able to forgive kagaya lang din nila ako. I started to pray to God na he change my heart until the time I was able to ask forgiveness from my husband forgave my husband and her and since then slowly I was able to pray for her and I can call her on her first name while I pray. Ngayon mas magaan na sa pakiramdam, although there are still times the enemy will remind me the hurt, but I rebuke him palagi kong sinasabi I am a child of God in his eyes I am beautiful, I am the covenant wife, you Satan is nothing compared to my protector all you do is to destroy you can’t give me joy and peace that my Lord has given me, you have no place in my heart, in my home. I only have one God, my redeemer, my creator, I will only serve one Master and he is the King of all Kings. Naaawa ako sa kanila ng asawa ko kasi they are blinded, balot sila ng evil spirits kaya mas lalo akong nagpray so they can have their salvation and enjoy the peace and joy that we have. And I keep on praying na God will never stop changing me until he fulfill his purpose in me.


Sis A: I pray that the other still- hurting wives will also go through this positive spiritual journey . Meanwhile na they still can’t , we can pray for their healing. I feel na yung names na OW ( other woman ) and AW ( adulterous woman ) etc. carries also the emotional / spiritual status of the legal wife. They need the space, time and much God’s Grace as they face their emotions and in due time, God willing, they can reach the stage of compassion and use the name OW.

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