Q: “… Rejection kills. I crave even just a hug but my husband rejects me in words, actions…”
Dear Sister,
God’s heart goes out to you. He is for you. He wants to love on you. It’s okay to cry and even with tears you can begin to rise up and step into His calling as His Chosen (Eph 1:4) Beloved (1 Thess 1:4), Daughter (John 1:12), Princess, Precious Honored Loved (Isa 43:4) Bride (Isa 54:5), Summoned by Name (Isa 43:1), More Than Conqueror (Rom 8:37), Branch of the True Vine (John 15:1,5), Heir of God (Rom 8:17), Temple of the Holy Spirit (1Cor 6:19), New Creation in Christ (2Cor 5:17), God’s Workmanship created to produce good works (Eph 2:10), Sharer in the Promise of Christ (Eph 3:6), Complete In Christ (Col 2:10), Citizen of Heaven (Phil 3:20).
May these bless you:
- SEEK GODS WISDOM TO SEE OBJECTIVELY THE ROOT CAUSE
Ask the Holy Spirit’s wisdom and guidance on your situation. Perhaps the Lord wants to heal your rejection wounds possibly not just from your husband but maybe from earlier life? But the way to healing journey takes its course when symptoms come to the surface and you don’t just put band aid but address the root cause.
At the same time perhaps your husband is also playing out his own wounds by controlling the situation and rebelling. He is not rebelling against and rejecting you but against God.
Your husband has a covenant with God to be your faithful husband. God will make him account.
2. DON’T TAKE THINGS PERSONALLY
But for you, the sooner you do not take personally what is happening but instead start…
3. FIX YOUR EYES ON JESUS/ HOLD EVERY THOUGHT CAPTIVE TO JESUS CHRIST
…fixing your eyes not on the god of pain, the god of husband, but The LORD, The Alpha and Omega God and the love He is offering and giving you, the sooner you will be released from the distress.
4. CAST YOUR BURDENS TO GOD
Pour your heart out like water to the Lord. CAST your pain and burdens to Him.
The spiritual reality is far greater and higher than the physical reality where you are feeling the actual physiological pangs, even the pain in your chest when something hurtful or distressing happens. God is able to heal you inside out and it begins with your spirit
5. GOD’S WORD/ QUIET TIME between you and God
To be transformed in the spirit, a renewing of the mind needs to take place and that happens thru allowing the Word of God to
enter and change the system like a tablet to purify unclean water.
We are to crave His pure Word like our spiritual milk to grow up spiritually.
We do not live by bread alone but by Every word that comes out from the mouth of God.
If we starve on His Word, we will not thrive spiritually.
His Word will begin to remove the “bacteria” of the enemy’s lies (that go against Gods Word that by God…
6. REMEMBER WHO YOU ARE IN GOD’S EYES
…you are loved redeemed favoured forgiven valued desired longed for, given Every spiritual blessing by your Faithful Eternal Bridegroom whom you are rejecting the same way as you describe your earthly husband to be rejecting you) and schemes (offended, taunted, tempted) to make you feel discouraged, defeated, derailed, depressed.
When you feel these D words, always reflect: How is my quiet time with the Lord?
Jesus came that you may have abundant life while the enemy comes ONLY to steal, kill, and destroy.
The extent to which you experience the abundant life is proportionate to the time you spend in Gods Word and Him and intentionally thanking Him for what is there instead of constantly pining for what is Not.
7. KEEP SHORT ACCOUNTS WITH GOD
Repent of the sins of unforgiveness, idolatry of husband and pain, and anything else that the Lord convicts you of. He is faithful and just to forgive your sins and cleanse you of all unrighteousness (1John 1:8-10). As far as the East is from the West, so far does He remove your sins from you.
8. CREATE IN ME A PURE HEART O GOD
Don’t let sin hinder your prayers and fellowship with God.
9. THANKSGIVING
And as an extra measure of really getting released from the pain, may I pass on to you a challenge that was given to me by Tita Thelma: By faith, thank God FOR the very circumstance (s) that you don’t like.
10. PRAISE
Review Jehoshaphat Lesson:
Praise and worship the Lord amidst distress by faith (you will only understand why this is important when you really try it).
