“Question regarding this part on interview with Tyrone Ongpauco:
‘It must be heartbreaking for the offended wife to give up the right/ desire to at least express her pain yet it comes down to a choice of gratifying her flesh or honouring God—- the same choice Esau had to make between the bowl of soup or his birthright:
‘Make every effort to live in peace with everyone and to be holy; without holiness no one will see the Lord. See to it that no one falls short of the grace of God and that no bitter root grows up to cause trouble and defile many. See that no one is sexually immoral, or is godless like Esau, who for a single meal sold his inheritance rights as the oldest son.” Heb 12:14-16 NIV”
❤What is the biblical way for hurt people to express their pain to the person who hurt them? Or should this even be expressed to ANY HUMAN at all? Express emotions to God first then with humility and in the right Spirit of forgiveness — to the person who offended you? What if you just really want to let emotions out or puputok ka na, mababaliw na sa kaka-keep ng pain [you will burst or go crazy from keeping pain in]?”
I think the best is to sumbong EVERYTHING to God and to biblical counselors. Writing down in your journal is also very therapeutic . Just be very careful where you store it.
The person who is exhibiting demon-backed behaviour is not in the right frame of mind but being controlled by the demon(s). Expressing your earnest feelings to that person will provoke the demon(s) and therefore the responses can be expected to be consistent with the devil’s:
*lies (John 8:44)
*devouring (1 Pet 5:8)
*accusing (Rev 12:10)
*provocations for you to get angry (Eph 4:26-27)
*intended to steal kill and destroy (John 10:10).
…Not the healing, relieving, comforting, productive responses that will help you.
Compounding new hurts to the initial nakakabaliw-na-hurts will not help; and it can elicit unnecessary violence from the demon(s) even if softly gently spoken one-time (as opposed to nagging) statements or questions.
Engaging with demon-backed persons is not recommended. (Example of demon-backed persons: one in a season of being steeped in adultery, deception/ lying, narcissism, pride, rebellion, condescension, hatred, rage, bitterness or one you could describe as “enslaved/ blinded by sin.” Every sin has a demon behind it. The more sins clearly manifested, the more demons you will be dealing with.)
The demonic strongholds are broken down by prayer, fasting, Christlikeness, and knowing God’s truths. Jesus overcame Satan’s lies by quoting Scripture (“It is written..”). Not that you will preach to the person who offended you but knowing God’s truths will help you stand your ground with the full armor of God (Eph 6:10- 18) so you do not get crushed/ intimidated/ deceived by the (devil’s) attacks against you (through human beings).
“The weapons we fight with are not the weapons of the world. On the contrary, they have divine power to demolish strongholds. We demolish arguments and every pretension that sets itself up against the knowledge of God, and we take captive every thought to make it obedient to Christ.” 2 Cor 10:4-5 NIV
Spiritual ammunition rather than conversation will yield better results.
Forgiveness is a decision you make for yourself for your own sake and in continuing conversations with the Lord when you are tempted to be unforgiving again. You would not want the spirit of unforgiveness to have a toehold, foothold, or stronghold in your life as sin is the entry point of the devil for control.
May the Holy Spirit help and guide us! And may The Lord fight our battles most powerfully!
“The Lord will fight for you; you need only to be still.””
Exodus 14:14 NIV
If you are not familiar with spiritual warfare: https://butterflyinthespring.com/2013/03/19/know-your-enemy/