Q: Hello PWF, I’m sorry it’s been so long since I joined in. I just want to confess that I’ve had a fight with my husband and my anger consumed me. I’m so discouraged again…parang whenever I’m doing well then something my husband says I get angry and hurt. Tapos I get mad in front of our child. Feeling ko I’m not a good testimony to my husband. Parang hirap to pray kasi feel like a hypocrite na.”
Dear Sis, thank you for sharing that. Confess your part to God so the unconfessed sin will not to be a hindrance to your prayers (Psalm 66:18) or cause torment (Psalm 32:3-5). “Keep short accounts” meaning when you realize something was displeasing to God, confess right away.
God is faithful and just to forgive us our sins and cleanse us of all unrighteousness (1John 1:9). As far as the East is from West, so far does He remove our transgressions from us (Psalm 103:12).
There is now no condemnation for those who are in Jesus Christ (Rom 8:1). If you still feel condemned, in Jesus’s name rebuke Satan who is the one who day and night accuses God’s redeemed/ forgiven/ cleansed (Rev 12:10).
If you have received Jesus Christ into your heart as Savior and Lord, you are continually being made a new creation. You are made in God’s image (Gen 1:26) and your true DNA is like your heavenly Father’s. Therefore, you are not being a hypocrite by coming to God but you are finally living out who you are by coming to Him.
“Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, the new creation has come: The old has gone, the new is here!”
2 Corinthians 5:17 NIV
If you have Consuming anger, while a natural tendency for humans (with the survival reflexes being FIGHT / Flight / Freeze which may be a manifestation of long- bottled-up emotions, even going as far back as childhood), God equips you to be More Than Conqueror (Rom 8:37) and victorious thru the power of the Holy Spirit (Zeny 4:6).
God’s Word is the continual healing balm that addresses not just the situation at hand but the deepest root from your earliest memory of what caused you the most consuming anger. You may think it is your husband that is triggering you but it could be your earliest rage experience you are reacting to (which manifests disproportionately/ irrationally in the here and now).
We can express/ articulate to God how we felt in that root earliest rage situation. Pour our hearts out like water (Lam 2:19a) before Him.
Ask Him to speak His truths to our heart mind and spirit. The “truths” part is where His Word comes in.
It is the ONLY offense weapon we have against ALL that is AGAINST us from Satan (Eph 6:12-18) but it is the effective tool to overcome all the power of the enemy by the power of the Holy Spirit (when Jesus is reigning in our hearts) (Luke 10:19). Scripture is what Jesus Himself used in fighting the temptations of Satan when He said, “It is written…”
The usual protocol for us when we feel defeated is to ask, “How is my quiet time with the Lord?”
Certainly the bible studies help us greatly in achieving a better understanding of Jesus, who we are in Him, what He has done for us, and how we can apply His Word to our situations. The bible studies are more importantly, skill-building to use when we are on our own— that we will know how to turn to God’s Word and peruse it towards victory in Christ.
If we knew that a billion dollar treasure were buried in our garden, what effort would we exert to find it? What good is a good medicine if we don’t apply it? And how do we apply it if we don’t read the directions?
God’s wisdom (depicted as a female) cries out to us to get our attention (Proverbs 1:20-33). Her rebuke at us when we don’t seek her is actually a bit jarring to read but it is a good wake up call for us to be intentional about diligently seeking God’s Word.
Praying that the Lord will give you wisdom and a way to attend to your family first yet carve out time to join Bible Study in order to be equipped not just for today but for every situation you will face the rest of your life in Jesus’s name amen
p.s. If your hurt from what your husband says is from rejection, may these encourage you:
Hi sister! Kamusta po kayo? I’m praying that at this time the gracious God our Father show His great love and mercy to you. For what had happened to you and your husband. I want you to know that you are forgiven by our Father God and you can start all over again.
Nakakarelate ako sayo sis, halos karamihan din dito alam ko pinagdaanan din nila ang pinagdadaanan mo. Pero one thing siguro sis na nakatulong sa akin at karamihan dito even if we fail most of the time as a wife we can still seek God and ask His guidance na magawa natin ang gusto Nyang gawin natin para sa glory Nya.
Before sabi ko bakit ba parang paulit ulit na lang magiging okay tapos pag may situation magaaway kami.. Mapapatulan ko husband ko. Tapos parang nakakahiya na talagang lumapit kay God. Pero sis alam mo ba na yun ang gusto ni God ang Kapalan natin ang mukha natin sa Kanya.. Ang maging desperate tayo sa paglapit at pagtawag sa Kanya. Pero sis kailangan din natin Syang pakinggan.
Sa totoo lang mas madali naman talaga ang patulan na lang ang init ng ulo ng mga husbands natin, mas madaling makipag away sa kanila pero at the end of the day naga-grab yung joy natin. Mas lalo lumalayo yung loob nila sa atin at may naaapektuhan yung mga nakapaligid sa atin at yun yung mga anak natin.
There was one time i asked God sabi ko pagud na ako God ayoko na wala ng patutunguhan ito.. Pero si God ayaw Nyang ma give up ako..
Nakatulong sa akin ang Psalm 37 sis. Let me share those verses na nakatulong sa akin don.
Do not fret because of those who are evil or be envious of those who do wrong;
Trust in the Lord and do good; dwell in the land and enjoy the safe pasture.
Take delight in the Lord, and He will give you the desires of your heart.
In verse 8
Refrain from anger and turn from wrath; do not fret – it leads only to evil.
Ito fave verse ko sa Psalm 37 yung verse 34.
Hope in the Lord and keep his way. He will exalt you to inherit the land.
“If your enemy is hungry, feed him; if he is thirsty, give him something to drink.
In doing this, you will heap burning coals on his head.”
Accept the one whose faith is weak without quarreling over disputable matters.
Our husbands are lost and weak hawak sya ng matindi nating kaaway sis. At hindi sila ang magaadjust sa atin. Tayo sis! Tayo ang may malaking role ngayon. Mahirap at parang luging lugi tayo.
Pero wala namang lugi at talo kase kasama natin si God..
Sis don’t loose hope. Wag tayong mag give up.
Pakinggan lang natin kung ano ang sinasabi sa atin ni God at ano gusto Nyang matutunan natin. Lets obey Him seriously.
Lets do this sis in Romans 12:9-14
Love must be sincere. Hate what is evil; cling to what is good. Be devoted to one another in love. Honor one another above yourselves. Never be lacking in zeal, but keep your spiritual fervor, serving the Lord.
Be joyful in hope, patient on affliction, faithful in prayer. Share with the Lord’s people who are in need. Practice hospitality.
Bless those who persecute you; bless and do not curse.
Ngayon sis I’m studying the book of James at dami ko talagang natutunan don.. I would like to encourage you to read James also alam kong matutulungan ka non.
Sis, I’m praying at this time God will wrap you in His Holy Spirit and unconditional love and let it overflow. I pray that God will help you to stay calm and never stop seeking Him in the midst of storm. In Jesus Name. Amen
Magiging okay din ang lahat sis. Magtiwala lang tayo kay God.